While a little stressful to do something in front of people that you normally don’t do, my Father’s Day Message at our church proved to be a blessing.
I’ll boil the whole thing down into my central point:
We have an awesome power at our fingertips:
Our choices determine the outcomes in our lives, now and into eternity, either positive or negative.
(Sure some things happen to us we have no choice or control over, but overwhelmingly the outcomes in our lives are based on our choices!)
We learned that God lets us be involved and choose what happens in our lives; blessings or curses.
Who in their right minds would choose curses?
We all do it every day by not using the Power of a Positive Choice in our lives.
God wants a personal relationship with us as our Heaavenly Father and the same is true for us Dads.
Making a Positive Choice requires right priorities.
God wants us to Choose His Presence (person) over His Presents (things).
The video attached is an example of my daughter’s family making this kind of positive choice. When I see something like this as DAD, it feels the same to me as the first time any of my children came running to me yelling Daddy, Daddy, Daddy. It warms my heart and delights my soul (the same way God feels when we go to Him!)
I shared one small example from my own life. My dad was much older when I was born. He was a product of his generation; the great depression and both World Wars. He never had any kind of emotional relationship with me and actually called me, “Big Dummy.” In 4 years of college I never got a letter, visit or even a phone call from either of my parents. This left scars I carried around for many years (maybe still do).
But when I was in my forties (my Dad died when I was about 30) my older sister said, “Do you realize how proud Dad was of you? He talked about you all the time!”
No, I didn’t realize that! And in fact felt just the opposite.
But my feelings were wrong! And I chose a curse instead of a blessing by not making a Positive Choice to believe in how God makes a Fathers heart toward their children instead of just listening to words and filtering circumstances through my own imperfect and self centered view.
Last week I had two different people share their life stories with me. One was abandoned at birth by their Dad and another a young lady told by her Dad at 15 he wanted nothing to do with her. In both cases The Power of a Positive Choice by these two people, resulted in blessings in their lives!
As a Dad myself, I now know better the heart of a Dad toward their children and how we may fail and even some of us may fail really bad. But I choose now to believe my own Dad loved me and really wanted what was best for me. What a blessing!
So we concluded with a time for all of us to make a Positive Choice and not ascribe wrong motives to our own Dads and if necessary to forgive our Dads for the things they did to harm and scar us.
And then Choose their Presence (person) over their Presents (things).
That is where the Power of a Positive Choice intersects with Blessings!
(I’ll make the message available online when I get a copy of it.)